Children can learn that there are things that they can do instead of showing high levels of anger, aggression or frustration that may escalates into a tirade or tantrum. Teaching your child healthy ways to cope and problem solve allows your child to know that they can still have a sense of control as they resolve issues in a different way other than resorting to challenging behavior.
It you want to work towards change be consistent in your approach no matter how tough things may seem. Children need consistency. Take the time to observe your child’s behavior and notice what happens before the behavior escalates. What challenge is the child facing at that time? What is happening during the tantrum and how does your child calm him/herself down from the intensity of the situation? The feelings children have are very real and understanding their feelings will help you discover solutions.
Try keeping a journal for a short period of time and noting what the “triggers” are in the environment that may be creating the challenging behavior. Try to understand what your child is trying to tell you when he or she is getting upset. Notice what he or she is feeling and experiencing at the point when the behavior changes from calm to being upset.
This article advises parents to be aware of the “ramping up” period or what many call “escalation”. Parents can learn to recognize when a situation might turn into an escalation and can introduce steps before things get out of hand to help the child calm down so that the outbursts does not occur or it is not has severe.
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